Letting them go easily — another variation
This case illustrates, what we guys do when we get too serious and scare the girl away. I learn that lesson, usually, people who are busy or just do not feel they want a
relationship, say so because of those reasons just mentioned and also, the most powerful reason of them all, simply because they have not met that person that makes them say to themselves, “this is it, I want this person as my B/G friend”, and in that realm, the best way when confronted with somebody that allowed you to get close, accepts you, with those limitations, the best way to proceed is not to push in for a relationship, on the contrary, agree to a no strings attached one and continue seeing her. If you are doing
your part, she will become so into you that she will end up requesting a relationship. I am in that situation now, and I am moving along great. When she told me, at the beginning, I do not want to have a boyfriend…(which came as a surprise, this girl is calling me and then…but I realized immediately what she was telling me, a no strings situation)…I said, cool, you are right, and I could see the relief it brought to her, because probably she was into me, but not into having a boyfriend. In the past I would had said, why? and…..trying to make her see that a BF is good, and that I was that BF, bull!!!!!!! do that, and you get ejected, too much of a threat. That girl is showing that situation in the topic we are involved with. If that girl would had accepted the situation, go along, eventually the guy might had thought differently down the road, but because of the pressure tactics, she blew up all possibilities she ever had. She is gone. I aim at becoming the sexual friend, if succeeding in that, a sexual friend, once in, can slowly try to turn the situation into a relationship if desired. If achieved, cool, if not , at least you got the best of her. Usually, girls turn obsessed with their sexual friends, so their men have the advantage of cutting it off, or going along into a relationship.
