Are Most Normal Guys Grossed Out At The Thought Of Dating An Older Woman?
younger guys in their early 20s. and by older i mean 10+ years.
and i mean for a serious relationship, not just for sex.
why the derogatory term for older women dating younger guys? cougars?
are these same guys grossed out when older men date younger women in their early 20s? or is this considered normal going in that direction?
I don’t think so. I have a number of friends in that kind of relationship. I myself am 11 years older than my husband. We have been together for 28 years. He still loves me and I still love him. My daughter married a guy 5 years younger than her. I think it actually depends on the two people involved.
depends on the person. you can’t determine love based soley on age. if you met someone and were attracted to them, got along well, and didn’t know their age, then if you found out their age it shouldn’t change how much fun you have w/them.
I dont know who decides what normal is. But the thought of dating a woman 10 years older than me (if I was 20) wouldnt bother me at all. A woman in her 30’s has had a lot of experience with men by then (and Im talking about emotional and intellectual experience, not sexual). Her understanding has improved and her expections are now far more reasonable than that of a younger woman. Im talking about the ones who learn from experience. Not everyone learns. I would find the prospect of dating an older woman exciting. When I was in my 20’s we just didnt think about it the way they do now. If I could go back in time I would definitelty explore that avenue. However I am now married and much older so my time is long past for that. The derogatory term comes from the usual double standard in our society where its ok for men to date younger women but not the reverse. Women always get the short end of the stick in just about everything.
not to many young guts will date a woman that much older for a serious relationship but think about it even women in there twenties complain that guys are not mature so how would a older woman and younger man even be close to compatible
define “normal guy”
Just remember……with age comes wisdom. I’ve went with younger and I’ve went older….I liked them all. Why gross out
Lol, not from my experience – oddly, after my marriage ended, I found everytime I turned around, younger guys were “hitting on me.”
It annoyed me to some degree, because I assumed that they were just looking for sex.
However, after a few months, I started to realize that while some of them were just taking shots, some were actually serious, and decided to stop being presumptuous and give them a chance if I found them interesting. Went out with several, ended up getting involved with one for a couple of years, and I ended up having to break things off because he wanted to get married and have kids, and I did not.
My brother’s wife is 18 years older than him, and we figured they would last a year, if that…they’ve been married for almost 20 years now.
I have found that it really, really depends on the people involved. If they have common interests, common values, and similar energy levels and the chemistry is there, they will likely get along. Some people are more mature at 25 than others are at 45 and vice-versa – some people have had more life experience at 22 than others at 50, and that makes a huge difference in their outlooks and goals.
The younger guys that are interested in older women for relationships tend to give the following explanations about what they see as advantages or attractive about them- more straightforward and direct, less insecure, more focused, more self-aware, more independent, experienced in life and relationships, more settled. I think most younger women who prefer older men find some of the same characteristics important.
I think it’s more common than it was in the past, and the term cougar amuses me, as I’m sure it does most older women who have actually dated younger guys. It definitely started out as a derogatory term- implying that older women were stalking or preying on younger guys.
Lol, most of us who have actually dated younger guys find it hilarious because in 9 out of 10 older woman/younger guy relationships, he was the one doing the chasing. Most women that I know kicked many young guys to the curve without a glance before actually reconsidering
why they were so quick to assume that young guys were not worth their time.
Ultimately, the success of any relationship depends on the compatibility and communication between the people involved no matter what their ages.